Yesterday afternoon I was over at another mom’s house. We were trying to get things ready for my daughter’s school fall fair which is on Saturday. The conversation turned to being cheap and parenting and how they go hand in hand. This other mom is a Stay home mommy by choice. We have both made the choice to stay at home moms. She said “I decided to be home with mine right now, and yes that means cutting back on certain things, and you cant compete with the neighbors”
So I started thinking of the choice I made to be here while Roo was getting diagnosed and stable.What did I give up to become this cheap momma that I am?
1) An hour commute each way to work.I take transit and rush hour traffic is not a good thing. I was glad to see this go!
2) Adult interaction-I have been blessed because I still get this because I volunteer, and the thing about volunteering it often comes with freebies or hidden benefits.
3) Eating Out- We eat at home. I can buy a pizza on sale for $3.99 instead of doing the $20 order in, or make great hamburgers instead of a trip to the golden arches. I also take snacks on on many of our day trips.
4)Going to the Movies- Okay this is one I miss, but when Coke has their movies passes on for my coke coins, I stock up. Then a movie costs the total of a box of popcorn. Other wise we use the library for our rentals.
5) New clothes and shoes–Yes I can”t buy at the beginning of the seasons for Roo and me. What I have found are some great consignment and second-hand shops. Did you know you can wardrobe a nine yr old for under $100 a year? For me, I buy when I need and make do! Thank goodness for the classic look.
6)Visits to the salon. Instead of spending $100 for my cut and color. I now color myself and go to the hairdresser once every ten weeks.
So have I had to give up much? Or am I now wealthier in ways that matter? I figure I am time rich. I can sit and read to Roo when she wants me, I am the one helping with homework and am in the school, so I am a mom in the know. I have time to give in my community, and that brings blessings. I can bake cookies when I want or visit the sick or do so many things that I couldn’t do when I worked full-time.
This conversation over coffee (diet coke for me) made me stop and think about that choice I made, and I am thankful that I am now this cheap mom who is as wealthy as I need to be!